New Year's Resolutions
Jan. 1st, 2003 07:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jdmkleinThese are something that are often quickly made by me and just as quickly broken by me. This year i decided to spend a great deal of thought on them, so that i won't be so inclined to break them.
1) i resolve to take care when listening to the people i work with. i am going to work toward not buying into their hysteria about some particular topic and then responding before thinking the whole thing through. i know that nothing is going to happen in the next 24 hours that is so drastic that i can't take the time to think about it. i am not embarrassed to change my mind about a work issue, that is not the point. i do, however believe it is less wasteful of my time and energy to think an issue through and then respond. i am not afraid to say to anyone, from the Deans to my colleagues that i need time to think about this. My problem is, i often don't. i have to be more aware of this flaw and work toward correcting it.
2) i resolve to take a less critical view of my brother-in-law. i love my sister and don't want to think of my life without her as a friend. She loves him, and is the one who lives with him. If she can deal with it 24/7, i should be able to show the good grace of being polite and respectful for the short time i am home each year. i have to learn not to let my jealous feelings rear their ugly head.
3) Along those lines, i resolve to be more tolerant of Mother's attitude towards my brother-in-law. i know she senses a problem, she feels it's competition, i'm not sure if she is correct or not, but she doesn't understand how difficult it is for me to be away. This is my life, i live it by choice, not only being with Master, but being away from my family. i only hear how she talks about my sister and spouse. i suppose in my heart i think she never talks about my children or me like she does Brother and family and Sister and spouse. In my head i know she does, just not to me. It would be nice to be on the receiving end of a bit of praise. Perhaps if i lived closer to home i would.
4) i resolve to make exercise for both Master and me a higher priority in our lives. This is similar to a resolution i make every year, but this year i believe i have found a way to make it work. i am not saying we will exercise three times a week or 5 hours a week or anything like that. That is setting us up to fail. i am saying that i will make it a higher priority. Exercise has to be as important for us as taking the dog out every day. It cannot be something we do when we feel like it. It has to become a regular part of our lives.
We didn't have hoppin' john for dinner tonight, but we did have black eyed peas for good luck.
1) i resolve to take care when listening to the people i work with. i am going to work toward not buying into their hysteria about some particular topic and then responding before thinking the whole thing through. i know that nothing is going to happen in the next 24 hours that is so drastic that i can't take the time to think about it. i am not embarrassed to change my mind about a work issue, that is not the point. i do, however believe it is less wasteful of my time and energy to think an issue through and then respond. i am not afraid to say to anyone, from the Deans to my colleagues that i need time to think about this. My problem is, i often don't. i have to be more aware of this flaw and work toward correcting it.
2) i resolve to take a less critical view of my brother-in-law. i love my sister and don't want to think of my life without her as a friend. She loves him, and is the one who lives with him. If she can deal with it 24/7, i should be able to show the good grace of being polite and respectful for the short time i am home each year. i have to learn not to let my jealous feelings rear their ugly head.
3) Along those lines, i resolve to be more tolerant of Mother's attitude towards my brother-in-law. i know she senses a problem, she feels it's competition, i'm not sure if she is correct or not, but she doesn't understand how difficult it is for me to be away. This is my life, i live it by choice, not only being with Master, but being away from my family. i only hear how she talks about my sister and spouse. i suppose in my heart i think she never talks about my children or me like she does Brother and family and Sister and spouse. In my head i know she does, just not to me. It would be nice to be on the receiving end of a bit of praise. Perhaps if i lived closer to home i would.
4) i resolve to make exercise for both Master and me a higher priority in our lives. This is similar to a resolution i make every year, but this year i believe i have found a way to make it work. i am not saying we will exercise three times a week or 5 hours a week or anything like that. That is setting us up to fail. i am saying that i will make it a higher priority. Exercise has to be as important for us as taking the dog out every day. It cannot be something we do when we feel like it. It has to become a regular part of our lives.
We didn't have hoppin' john for dinner tonight, but we did have black eyed peas for good luck.
