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Jan. 8th, 2020 02:54 pmI just had a fight with a phone case. I doubt if I will keep it on my phone since I have a wireless charger. I have to take the case off the phone to get it to charge on the wireless. And then sometimes I forget to put the case on in the morning. Which is neither here nor there except that the case I just fought with will not be a fun thing to meet up with every morning, which might make me intentionally forget to put the case on, which will increase the chances of something breaking on the phone when it drops, which makes the case a useless piece of equipment. However, the case I have been using goes on and off quite easily, which is a strong incentive to continue to use it. Right now I am no longer in the mood for a fight, so the new more difficult case shall stay.
I have made an appointment to speak with Dr. Kontos about the changing condition of Sarah's health. I have to write these questions and more before seeing Doc on Monday.
*How do I handle the questions she is asking about her memory failures?
I have been explaining to her that everyone's memory fails as they get older. I reminded her of Gram's problems and have told her about my lapses and the inability to find words. I went on to explain that because of the tumor she had as a child her brain is acting older than it should and she is having the same problems I am, even though she is much younger.
*How do I help her deal with this while she still notices these things?
Are there some exercises or brain games she can play that will help keep her memory longer?
*How will I know when she needs to move out of her home and into a care facility?
*How can I stop the guilt I have: a. for causing this because of my smoking and drinking during the pregnancy? and b. the part of her life I have missed because of my selfishness in leaving her for 20 years?
*What's next?
Is this decline going to follow a pattern so I can prepare both Sarah and the family (me) to be able to deal?
*Is there anybody, thing, place that I can go to for help? Other than making your day later by coming here?
*Finances? I know you can't give me specific help with this, but can you suggest someone, place, thing I can turn to?
This list will be added to, I am certain, before Monday. 441
I have made an appointment to speak with Dr. Kontos about the changing condition of Sarah's health. I have to write these questions and more before seeing Doc on Monday.
*How do I handle the questions she is asking about her memory failures?
I have been explaining to her that everyone's memory fails as they get older. I reminded her of Gram's problems and have told her about my lapses and the inability to find words. I went on to explain that because of the tumor she had as a child her brain is acting older than it should and she is having the same problems I am, even though she is much younger.
*How do I help her deal with this while she still notices these things?
Are there some exercises or brain games she can play that will help keep her memory longer?
*How will I know when she needs to move out of her home and into a care facility?
*How can I stop the guilt I have: a. for causing this because of my smoking and drinking during the pregnancy? and b. the part of her life I have missed because of my selfishness in leaving her for 20 years?
*What's next?
Is this decline going to follow a pattern so I can prepare both Sarah and the family (me) to be able to deal?
*Is there anybody, thing, place that I can go to for help? Other than making your day later by coming here?
*Finances? I know you can't give me specific help with this, but can you suggest someone, place, thing I can turn to?
This list will be added to, I am certain, before Monday. 441
