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jdmkleinEileen called me last night to tell me Jeff is in the hospital in critical. He was found unresponsive on the floor of his apartment yesterday early afternoon. Next to him were at least 2 different pill bottles. One of Ativan that had just been filled and another that his doctor substituted for Suboxone, Buprenorphine, that he takes to help him keep sober.
It is unclear what happened. He has said many times that he would not commit suicide because of James' death. James is one of Cindy's ex-husbands. She has trouble picking good men. He was much younger than her and had been told by his parents that James had 'problems'. She married him anyway. She and Jaden up here living with Eileen and Den at the time. James. the sweetheart that he was, went to a park, called her on his cell phone, and shot himself while she was on the line.
It took Jaden nearly a year before he could talk about his grief. He chose Eileen to talk to. She loves that boy so much. She keeps him upright and knows that he is loved and that there is some stability in his life. Because of that incident in Jaden's life, he was much younger when it happened, Jeff vowed that he would never kill himself. Jeff loves Jaden so much, it is too bad that his life has been such a mess.
Anyway, back to Jeff. The woman who found Jeff called Eileen to tell her about him. He has no family here, no friends who would be able to care for him, no power of attorney. When Eileen called the hospital, the nurse she spoke with at first told her that because Eileen wasn't on the list, she couldn't release any information about Jeff. Eileen kept her cool and explained the situation. The nurse relented and gave Eileen what she had asked for. Eileen was able to help the staff at the hospital by giving the nurse all the medical information she had about Jeff. Eileen knew what meds he was on and who his doctor was. Don't get me started on that quack.
Later, last evening, Eileen and Den went to the hospital to see Jeff. Again the nurse went against protocol and let them into his room. Eileen said he had tubes going into every available space. He was on a respirator. and the staff were trying to flush out all the drugs he took. Eileen said she went over to Jeff and touched his forehead and spoke to him. She said his eyes rolled and he tried to open them. So that gives some hope.
If he survives the next question will be what damage has been done to his brain. Will he be able to do for himself and live on his own? Will he have to go into a facility so he can be cared for?
It was decided not to tell Jaden about this just yet. I think that is a mistake but I am only peripherally related and have no say when it comes to calling the shots. Jadan certainly can be told his father is in the hospital. He doesn't need to know why exactly because no one knows if Jeff's med mistake was intentional or accidental. It is possible that Jeff had not been aware of the amount of medication he took. Jaden can honestly be told they don't know why.
I wonder if it just wouldn't be better for everyone if Jeff did not survive. Eileen said he has a 50/50 chance of living. Jeff's life will be short because of how he treated his body with all the drugs and alcohol. He had diabetes, but he doesn't eat a healthy diet. He drinks pop all the time, Or energy drinks, both of which are loaded with sugar. Because of diabetes and his lack of caring for himself, he will likely lose his toes or feet, which will make getting around difficult. He also has liver and kidney disease. He has high blood pressure, he is overweight, and he has anxiety. Then there is the new med he is on, Buprenorphine. The list of cautions lists almost every problem Jeff has. He shouldn't even be taking it. His doctor should be hung by his balls from the top of a water tower.
I don't know what is going to happen to Jeff.
It is unclear what happened. He has said many times that he would not commit suicide because of James' death. James is one of Cindy's ex-husbands. She has trouble picking good men. He was much younger than her and had been told by his parents that James had 'problems'. She married him anyway. She and Jaden up here living with Eileen and Den at the time. James. the sweetheart that he was, went to a park, called her on his cell phone, and shot himself while she was on the line.
It took Jaden nearly a year before he could talk about his grief. He chose Eileen to talk to. She loves that boy so much. She keeps him upright and knows that he is loved and that there is some stability in his life. Because of that incident in Jaden's life, he was much younger when it happened, Jeff vowed that he would never kill himself. Jeff loves Jaden so much, it is too bad that his life has been such a mess.
Anyway, back to Jeff. The woman who found Jeff called Eileen to tell her about him. He has no family here, no friends who would be able to care for him, no power of attorney. When Eileen called the hospital, the nurse she spoke with at first told her that because Eileen wasn't on the list, she couldn't release any information about Jeff. Eileen kept her cool and explained the situation. The nurse relented and gave Eileen what she had asked for. Eileen was able to help the staff at the hospital by giving the nurse all the medical information she had about Jeff. Eileen knew what meds he was on and who his doctor was. Don't get me started on that quack.
Later, last evening, Eileen and Den went to the hospital to see Jeff. Again the nurse went against protocol and let them into his room. Eileen said he had tubes going into every available space. He was on a respirator. and the staff were trying to flush out all the drugs he took. Eileen said she went over to Jeff and touched his forehead and spoke to him. She said his eyes rolled and he tried to open them. So that gives some hope.
If he survives the next question will be what damage has been done to his brain. Will he be able to do for himself and live on his own? Will he have to go into a facility so he can be cared for?
It was decided not to tell Jaden about this just yet. I think that is a mistake but I am only peripherally related and have no say when it comes to calling the shots. Jadan certainly can be told his father is in the hospital. He doesn't need to know why exactly because no one knows if Jeff's med mistake was intentional or accidental. It is possible that Jeff had not been aware of the amount of medication he took. Jaden can honestly be told they don't know why.
I wonder if it just wouldn't be better for everyone if Jeff did not survive. Eileen said he has a 50/50 chance of living. Jeff's life will be short because of how he treated his body with all the drugs and alcohol. He had diabetes, but he doesn't eat a healthy diet. He drinks pop all the time, Or energy drinks, both of which are loaded with sugar. Because of diabetes and his lack of caring for himself, he will likely lose his toes or feet, which will make getting around difficult. He also has liver and kidney disease. He has high blood pressure, he is overweight, and he has anxiety. Then there is the new med he is on, Buprenorphine. The list of cautions lists almost every problem Jeff has. He shouldn't even be taking it. His doctor should be hung by his balls from the top of a water tower.
I don't know what is going to happen to Jeff.
